Five years ago, I met the man of my dreams in a night club where my best friend was having her birthday party. We hit it off right after. I was drunk and allowed him to have his way with me that night. I regretted the next morning, but he treated me like a queen, professing his undying love for me, we dated for a year and got married after.

I must say, with confidence that I lacked nothing. He is a very influential businessman. He later convinced me to stop my secretarial job so I can take care of the kids while putting me on a salary. Twice every year I was entitled to a vacation location of my choice. I was the envy of most of my friends.

I soon realized that my husband would disappear for a week or half month without telling me where he went. He will get angry when I complain saying he is working hard for my own comfort. At one point, I wanted to move back to my parents, but they themselves didn’t approve, mainly because he will spoil them with gifts whenever he is back. After so many confrontations, he later promised that he would call whenever he could. I felt so lonely and cheated on but without evidence. 

Years on, I got fed up as I became emotionally detached from him. Our kids will beg to have him at their birthday parties to no avail but as usual, he will come back bearing gifts and they will all forget how he made them feel. He will go on a 10 days’ vacation with all of us and then I in particular will be back to my misery, trying to manage both the kids and the home….alone!

One afternoon, I had a call to report to the police station as my husband has been arrested. Like how………what did he do? I drove on top speed and as the police communicated his offence, I couldn’t hold back my emotions and tears.

A lady, Natasha had reported being raped in her apartment by a man who had bound and gagged her. She had gone clubbing with her friends and had gone home with him after.  It was after she came back from the bathroom that the man tied her up and raped her. he left her tied up till the neighbor found her the next morning. She reported to the police and that was when they noticed a trend over the years and decided to investigate.

Over 20 ladies came out testifying to being raped the same way and identified him when he was brought in…… Husband ??. I had not paid attention to either social media or the newspaper so had no idea the case of the rapist had been trending. That was when it clicked. Our first night together after the club he requested to tie me up. I understand BDSM very well and so I didn’t find any problem when he asked gently but over the years, we have had normal sex and he didn’t give me any clue that was the main thing he fancied or yearned.

Upon crying for some time for him to tell me the truth, he admitted privately to me that, he actually did molest those ladies. he talked about how he watched his dad do that to countless ladies and though he knows it is wrong he just couldn’t resist doing same. he spoke about the days he vanished and how he knew he was hurting me and thus kept his silence.

I left the police station confused and for days I don’t know what to tell the kids.

Now I don’t know if to stand by him and bear all the disgrace or file for divorce. How do I protect the children from this disgrace? What should I do???