Have you ever just randomly started crying because you have been holding in all of these emotions and pretending to be ok for far too long? That moment when you burst into tears in your room and realize that no one knows how unhappy you are. You hide when you cry because you want to be seen as a strong person at the same time though, you hate how nobody notices how broken you are?

TEARS ARE PRAYERS TOO. THEY TRAVEL TO GOD WHEN WE CAN’T SPEAK

Have you ever wanted to cry but no tears came out, so you just stare blankly into space, whiles feeling yourself break into pieces.
A lot of people have an ex that they can’t seem to get out of our minds. A harmful friendship we hold on to even though it exhausts us. Or a toxic family member. Holding on is a natural human instinct – and it’s also a critical way that we stop ourselves from reaching our goals. Because ultimately, not knowing how to move on harms you: It prevents you from achieving your true potential. Having to end something toxic but still loving the person and not wanting to leave them is one of the worst situations to be in.

We like to hold on to things, situations and especially people because it fulfills our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the six human needs that drive every decision we make. Letting go and moving on from a relationship often entails a large amount of uncertainty. Even if your relationship had reached its conclusion or one or both of you were very unhappy, there was still an amount of certainty there that was comforting.
Sometimes we use the past to justify our current decisions, and that’s why we can’t figure out how to let go. Because you are afraid you won’t find anyone else. Those memories justify everything for you. When you’re unable to let go, those memories become a part of your “story” and work against you.

Learning how to let go of someone you love – someone you’ve built a deep connection with and whom you’ve shared your life with – is likely one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. That’s why so many people break up, but never truly discover how to move on.
Stop wondering what could have been
Stop reliving those memories
Stop checking them up on social media
Stop making changes to your appearance to get them back

POEM
I SHOULD HATE YOU FOR ALL YOU HAVE DONE TO ME.
I WOULDN’T WISH THAT PAIN ON ANYBODY. YOU GO AROUND LIVING YOUE LIFE AS IF YOU’VE DONE NOTHING WRONG, BUT THE TRUTH IS, YOU ARE SELFISH. ALL YOU EVER CARED ABOUT WERE YOUR FEELINGS, YOUR WANTS, AND YOUR NEEDS. I WAS JUST A PAWN IN YOUR GAME OF LIES. AND EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I WILL NEVER GET THE APOLOGY AND THE EXPLANATION I DSERVE, I FORGIVE YOU BECAUSE I OWE IT TO MYSELF TO HEAL AND I OWE IT TOO MYSELF TO MOVE ON AND PROSPER

But the thing is……
You don’t trust that someone is never going to betray you. You just trust that you will be able to handle it if they do. That you will be able to walk away …………stop worry about whether you can, may be you can’t. The fact that you can’t trust and only time will tell is a major pointer…………, truth be told, it is a pointless waste of energy worrying. Worry only about yourself. Be selfish and invest in building your defenses.