PART II

Now let’s delve into the act of LOVE MAKING, I don’t know it all but at least I try to read and explore. Let us always try to learn something new so marriage counselors will not have to go through this stress of counselling us after marriage.

Marriage and Sex was designed by God as a picture of the covenant relationship He wants with us (2 Corinthians 11:2). God places great importance on human sexuality because sex is the most intimate relationship two human beings can have. It is also a picture of the intimacy God created us to enjoy with Him. In sex, there is a giving over of the body, and in our spiritual relationship with God, the sexual act is a consummation of the covenant made between a man and a woman. Covenants were always consummated with the shedding of blood (Exodus 24:8), and, usually, blood is shed when virginity is lost. When God made His covenant with us, the blood of Christ was shed (Hebrews 13:20). Sex is more than a means of procreation and a safe outlet for our sexual drives. It is holy to God because it symbolizes the pure soul intimacy He wants to share with us. To engage in sex as a casual activity is to strip it of its true meaning.

We all like to think we’re good lovers, but in reality, most of us know there’s room for improvement. After all, how we enjoy sex is integral to the quality of any committed romantic relationship. It’s the thing that puts that twinkle in your eye when you look at each other the next day, because you both know you’ve shared something special together

Some people are embarrassed to talk about lovemaking, especially with their partners. How the man or the woman views this experience, is often programmed into them from an early age by the perceptions of a parent or caregiver and confirmed through life’ experiences. But like anything in life, if you want to achieve enjoyment and fulfillment from it, you must be prepared to talk about it. Like any other art, you need to practice the art of lovemaking in order to become really good at it.

In this regard, my write ups are supposed to give small guidelines and to also explore the fact that we are all different and what works for you might not work for me. Men and women have different perceptions of what being a “good lover” is all about. If you ask a man, he will focus on technique and results, such as “she had multiple orgasms”, the reason they are fast to ask, “did you cum”, how many times? after the act…..what a shame! because for me a man needs to know his woman. But if you ask a woman, she will remember the setting and atmosphere leading up to the lovemaking. So, if we want the most memorable lovemaking experience, we need to take both the above into account. The secret is to become creative. Music, smells, lighting and colors all combine to produce the most sensually arousing setting for the most memorable lovemaking. Change your environment, the bedroom sex is too much…. Learn to explore.

The art of lovemaking is about intimacy, and this comes from openness and trust. It is so important to communicate with each other. When you feel a heart-to-heart connection with your partner, your lovemaking can be pure ecstasy. So, we have to learn to be honest and let your partner know exactly how you feel. We cannot overemphasize the importance of foreplay in the art of lovemaking. Sometimes we can be so focused on reaching orgasm that we forget to simply enjoy the pleasure of lovemaking. Instead, we only experience frustration. This is especially likely when lovemaking no longer seems like an adventure of doing something different together. It becomes routine. But can you imagine having sensual foreplay without actually having sex? The talks, the cuddles, touches, kisses, the music etc…… The truth is, most men, as well as women, can become aroused when their partner pays attention to certain special spots beyond the genitalia. The key to foreplay lies in the stimulation of the major and minor erogenous zones.

Men need to realize that woean want to be loved all over and so do men. You need to taste each other, touch each other, see each other, smell each other, hear each other. There are five senses and if we use them all, it will not only draw you closer, but you will also want each other more, leading to an explosive climax, and this among others is what I delve into on my page.

LOVE AND LIGHT

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